Coping with the After Drop-off Guilt

We’ve all experienced that heart-wrenching moment when we drop our little ones off at daycare or school. If your child is anything like mine, they’ll throw in some extra theatrics—dramatic cries, clinging tightly around your neck—completely shattering your heart during drop-off. And while I know she’s in a wonderful daycare with educators she loves and is completely safe, she never fails to send me off with those special waterworks, making the separation feel even harder.

But over time, I’ve found a few ways to soothe the ache and ease the guilt after those emotional drop-offs. Here are some strategies that have helped me patch up my heart:

Give yourself time to process

After drop-off, sit in the car for a moment. Take a deep breath. It’s important to acknowledge that this is hard. Being a working parent comes with its challenges, and it’s okay to feel sad about not being able to be with your child all the time.

Remind yourself that they’re safe and thriving

Your little one is in a safe, nurturing environment where they feel a sense of belonging. Daycare isn’t just a place they go to; it’s their space to grow and shine. They’re learning so much, forming friendships, and engaging with the world in ways they couldn’t at home. It’s their time to explore without mum and dad.

Celebrate the time apart

As much as we love our kids, it’s also important to value the time we spend on ourselves. It’s a chance to focus on work you enjoy and rediscover that part of you outside of being a parent. Having that space to be “you” again is not only okay—it’s essential.

Indulge in a small treat

After the emotional toll of drop-off, give yourself permission to enjoy something nice. Whether it’s sipping on a takeaway coffee without little hands grabbing at it, treating yourself to a snack in peace, or simply scrolling through your phone for a few uninterrupted minutes—these small moments can lift your spirits.

By allowing yourself these moments of reflection and self-care, you’ll start to navigate the bittersweetness of daycare drop-offs with a little more ease. It’s tough, but you’re doing great, and your little one is too.